what happend to the life long vows?

is it some kind ov joke to you? to everybody? i mean, i dont get it... i never did. 1st of all, i do not like marriages, and i dont believe in them, but sure when i say this to someone i get "your still young. i thought the same when i was your age..." but for fock sakes, i mean it. i've seen too many break in the past 16 years to want to ... like them. and then theres the fact that i do NOT think it is important for 2 people, to be 'officialy' together. i mean, why should i have a piece of paper tell me i am now officially in love with a person? when now, the same damn peice of papaer can tell me i am now legally never allowed to be with them again! what kind of... law is that? how does a man sitting in a black coat with white fake focking hair get to decide if i should be with the guy i love or not? what does he know about us? how LONG has he known us? what gives him the rights?

anyway... im a little enthusiastic about this matter. because there are just so many things i do not get.i use to think, how the hell can you spend ur life with ONE person.. then i thought... thats very subjective.. maybe there is a word called love somewhere out there... and it makez people wanna do syco things like marry! but... people change after marriage... and i think thats really sad. a sad truth about life. knowing you have something, somehow means you just end up taking it forgranted... take this for an example.. its not a great one.. but it is one that would effect me!

your.. dating a guy.. he blows u off 3 times in a row, for dinner, and after planning everything.. but its very 'important' things he's blowing u off for.. or say, he just.. goes like a week/2 without telling you he loves you.. do you not think, that the guy would be a little scared that things between you are going edgy and if u got annoyed you could want a 'break' because of his behaviour? well... now, think of those things in a marriage. geez do u think he will EVER think u'll divorce him for them?! no.. so, he takes it forgranted.. and mind i say, im not just picking on men here... although, i wouldnt mind i mean i have alot to say but thats not what this is about... it goes for women too!

i just think that... inspite of everything else.. if people could just pay attention on eacho ther rather then what others may say or what is 'the right thing to do'.. they would be happier.. it isnt always just black and white. theres more to it... and, marriages meant something in the old days when people really did love each other and stay together... it was.. meaningful, sure it had its big disadvantages but, it was still a marriage, today its just a joke. you can get a divorce faster then you get married, and you dont even have to make up bloody vows! what is.. all that? i mean, am i the only one that find it sad? im not disgusted or just appauled but i do, i really do think its sad.